Shaytaan's Tactics

 Don't be too impressed with yourself if you're able to stay away from major sins such as zina, gambling, drinking alcohol, and so on. Many people are good at avoiding such sins, but they're not so good at protecting their tongues from backbiting, swearing, cursing, belittling people, and so forth. Nor are they good at protecting their hearts from materialism, worldly desires, jealousy, holding grudges, arrogances and pride.

We must remember that if Shaytan is not able to get us to commit sins, he will try to get us to waste time, procrastinate and delay doing good deeds, such as seeking knowledge, reading and studying the Qur'an, learning Arabic, da'wah, dhikr, tawbah and other good deeds that will benefit us here and in the Akhirah/Hereafter.

He will also try to convince us that we don't have the time for such things, even though we're able to make time to watch movies, box sets, or go out with friends.

This is Love

There are at least 2 types of love. There will be some people you love because of what you get from them: what they give you, the way they make you feel. This is perhaps the majority of love, which is also what makes much of love so unstable. A person's capacity to give is inconstant and changing. Your response to what you are given is also inconstant and changing. So if you're chasing a feeling, you'll always be chasing. No feeling is ever constant. If love is dependent on this, it too becomes inconstant and changing. And just like everything in this world, the more you chase it, the more it will run away from you. But, once in a while, people enter your life that you love, not for what they give you, but for what they are. The beauty you see in them is a reflection of the Creator, so you love them. Now suddenly it isn't about what you're getting, but rather what you can give. This is unselfish love.

This second type of love is the most rare. And if it is based in, and not competing with, the love of Allah, it will also bring about the most joy. To love in any other way is to need, to be dependent, to have expectations, all the ingredients for misery and disappointment. So for all those, who have spent their life seeking, know that purity of any thing is found at the source. If it is love that you seek, seek it through Allah. Once you begin to see everything beautiful as only a reflection of God's beauty, you will learn to love in the right way: for His sake. Everything and everyone you love with be for, through and because of Him. The foundation of such love is Allah. So what you hold onto will no longer be just an unstable feeling, a fleeting emotion. And what you chase will no longer be just a temporary high. What you hold, what you chase, what you love, will be Allah: the only thing stable and constant.

Thereafter, everything else will be through Him. Everything you give or take or love or don't love, will be by Him. This means you will love what He loves and not love what He does not love. And when you do love, you will give to the creation, not for what you can get in return from them. You will love and you will give, but you will be sufficed from Him. And the one who is sufficed by Allah, is the richest and most generous of all lovers. Your love will be by Him, for Him, and because of Him. That is love.

Sincerity

People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered. Forgive them anyway. If you're kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives; Be kind anyway. If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies; Succeeded anyway. If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you; Be honest and frank anyway. What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight; Build anyway. If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous; Be happy anyway. The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow; Do good anyway. Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough; Give the world the best you've got anyway. You see, in the final analysis it is between you and Allah; It was never between you and them anyway.

The Left Rib

I asked my wife, "What is it that you love about me?" She said, 

"I love the long beard on your face, the Khol in your eyes and the perfume on your body.

I love when you wear garments above ankles and walk lowering your gaze with humility because you remind me the sunnah of my Nabi.

I love when you remind me to recite Surah Mulk before going to bed. I love when you make wudhu, read duas/prayers and sleep on your right side.

I love when you stand before me in Tahajjud and we pray together. I love when you and I recite Qur'an and share hadiths.

I love when you place a feathery kiss on my forehead before going to masjid; when you excite me, intrigue me, fascinate me and love me when I don't even deserve it.

I love when you stop me from sharing our photos online to restrain me from spreading fitnah and to protect our happiness from the evil eye.

I love when you are jealous of other guys looking at me. I love when you draw niqab on me face and say, "You're only mine".

I love when you ask me how was my day; when you care about my physical, mental and emotional health. I love when you give importance to my feelings.

I love when you silently eat my salty and spicy curries without complaining. I love when you forgive me and praise my bad cooking just not to make me feel upset.

I love when you give a smile from your heart and saying bismillah you enter home with the right leg. I love when you give "Salam" and whisper to my ears - 'I missed you'.

I love you my habib, it would take a lifetime and more to describe you how much I love you because you're Ma Sha Allah wonderful from inside and out.

Your manner, your kindness- generosity, your patience, your respect, your mindset, your concern for this life and the hereafter is what I love."

Believe/Yaqeen

Every story does not end in pain or with the last goodbye letter. Some stories start with love and ends up on believing . Believe to meet again. Believe to be granted with the best. Believe to make impossible into possible. Believe to get sweet reward of this painful wait. Believe for the acceptance of dua's/prayers. So we have to understand that sometimes we have to leave a lot of things even if we don't want it, for Allah's will. And some things are removed from our life just for a test. And when we pass that test then Allah give us back everything that was taken from us. Remember one thing, Allah loves those who believe in Him! Who put their whole faith in Him! Who ask everything from Him! And dua/prayer is the most powerful way of expressing your believe and love towards Allah. Dua/prayer is a witness that Allah can do anything! Then miracles happen. And everything gets done, no matter what it is. Our journey becomes so easy when Allah becomes our companion. And then He completes every incomplete story with His one order "Kun" be and Fayakun "It is".

Practice Good Speech Before You Preach to Others

People teach others good manners and a gentle tone and when the time comes to themselves to do this, they start harassing others over very small things and in so many different ways in the name of justice. Then they gain false sympathy by being oppressed in front of others.

Every story has two sides, one that is shown to people and the other, that is truth. I've noticed that people see every story the way they want to, they don't even care if it's true or false. People just enjoy harassing an innocent person or seeing him being degraded and publicly humiliated.

See the good in others and learn to find excuses for one another before assuming the worst, so that on the day of Judgment Allah may have mercy on you. Because you are not free from sins. If Allah hides your faults from all, then learn to conceal the faults of others. Don't forget that as fast as Allah can give you everything, He can take everything back from you even more faster.

Family Conflicts

We tend to judge people with family problems, but forget that even Prophets were tested with domestic issues. Prophets did not have perfect families. Nuh had problems with his son, Ibrahim with his father, Luth with his wife, and Yaqoob with his children. Allah put these Prophets to trial so that generations can also persevere in patience.

May Allah grant us strength in our family bonds, and if there is any issues in the family, may Allah allow our honour to stay intact and give us the hikmah (wisdom) and himma (courage) to resolve it privately. Do not publicize your matters hoping for sympathy or support, many don't care, and many are glad you have them. Confide in Allah, only He can heal, help and change your situation.